2017 Scene & Story #2


This week my daughter asked me, "Why do you love me?" in a genuinely curious tone. 

I felt a rush of motherly hormones and tried to describe what it was like when she was born. "I thought I couldn't love anyone more than I loved you that day even though I'd just met you."

She beamed.

I added, "But I was wrong. I love you more all the time."

"Why?" She cocked her head to the side.

"Because of all the experiences we have together. Because of what you teach me."

She was done talking then, but I thought, Like how you're teaching me right now. 

Having to answer my children's questions always helps me figure out how I really feel about things. Looking them in the eyes, being responsible for them, fretting, glowing with pride, feeding them, listening to what they're saying and what they're not saying-- these things bind me to them a little more each day.

These are January snapshots of those people:



















I'm participating in a Scene & Story Link-up for 2017 over at Paisley Rain Boots. It has helped me take more intentional photos and connected me with some other bloggers/kindred spirits.

23 comments:

  1. Yes, yes, yes. I can whole heartedly agree to everything you say. This has been my experience while raising my daughter, which sometimes has been challenging. Why did I react the way I sometimes did? What do I really think about something? How do I feel about this? Their questions turn into our own questions. While they grow, we change with them.
    Wonderful images, by the way!

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    1. Thank you! Our kids' questions reveal so much. :)

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  2. I love, love, love how you captured and cropped just their eyes in these shots. Eyes windows to the soul. Being a mother is such a gift and also heavy with responsibility. Conversations are priceless, through their eyes and through our eyes.

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    1. Thanks, Sarah! I was inspired by Marina Abramovic's living performance at the MOMA. Watching her sit with visitors and simply look into their eyes on a documentary was powerful. It was as if their masks had been removed.

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  3. It's amazing how percechildren are - and how they teach us to look deeper. I love your collection of photos- showing their eyes! This is such a touching story!

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    1. Thank you, Karen. I have called them "my perfect little teachers" before because y kids can bring things to light like no one else.

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  4. I really like the photos that just show the eyes! Each one so lovely with unique eye color and expression. They do teach us, don't they, these children of ours.

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  5. Love your creative photos in this post. And as far as your love for your children, it never goes away, and you never stop worrying about them even when they are 51.

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    1. I know you must be right. There is a constant pull to achieve balance between doing for them and letting them do for themselves. I wonder if that will go away :)

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    2. I've learned to let go because you have to, and they have to live their own life and come to their own understanding. At least this has been my experience.

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  6. Love your words and how you've captured their beautiful eyes!

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    1. Thanks, Cathy! These photos were really fun to take. The kids laughed a lot too.

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  7. My "kids" are both in their forties now and they are still teaching me. I would like to hope it's still a two-way street. Your children's eyes are very beautiful, simply mesmerizing.

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    1. Thank you. Of course, I agree. :) I can't even imagine what kind of love will be there when more years have passed.

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  8. Such a heart warming post. Love the eyes!

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    1. Thanks, Carol. I have found myself looking back at it a couple times just to see their smiling eyes. :)

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  9. It is said that our children are our teachers and that is true on so many levels. We learn so much from them from the time they are small babies and look around them with such wonder. Such lovely images of their eyes!

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    1. One of my favorite blogs is www.eilataviram.com. It's called "So You Think Parenting is About the Children?" The blogger is a clinical psychologist who writes about using parenting to heal yourself. I read every post and nod my head.

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  10. So true...my daughter has taught me so many things. I had no idea what I was getting into by just saying I want a child. In the past 15 1/2 years (the 1/2 is important because you can get your driver's permit in Ohio then :) I have learned about love, patience acceptance...and so much more. Loved your post. BTW:I am originally from St. Louis :)

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  11. The kids views of life before being jaded by the world or me...yep, I've learned a lot from my kids. Truly.

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    1. I think that's exactly right. They don't think anything of asking such questions. :)

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